Devaluing oneself.

Ah. Quite possibly a controversial blog post. :)

 

I came across an article on Facebook today.

It really spoke to me because when I first started out doing what I do, I did so much free work its not even funny. I must have painted at least 100 faces. I worked for hours on end, for no pay at all. I was lucky to even receive $20- $30 for cab fare.

And many people preyed on such naivety, like vultures on fresh meat.

There was this boss of a “modeling” company who used me for his models’ photo shoots, I would work for half & full days with no pay. The most infuriating of all, was that not only was I not paid at all, my services were clearly not appreciated. One of the models had the audacity to show up 2 hours late, behave like she’s Tyra Banks, and actually asked me for makeup remover after I was done, because she “preferred to do her own makeup”.

I was furious and crushed, all at once.

Later on I discovered a blog post she wrote, claiming that I did a bad job “on purpose” because “we had a fight”. There was no such thing. I barely even spoke a word to her because I was feeling unwell and was trying to control my nausea throughout the whole session. Ever tried talking when you’re trying your darnest not to puke?

I certainly did not appreciate her complete lack of manners and story-telling skills. (Some village somewhere is missing their very own J.K Rowling.)

Look, I dont do myself any favors by doing a bad job on purpose, because Im personally invested in the outcome of her photos. More than anyone, actually. The ONLY person who doesn’t get paid for doing the photo shoot was me. Everyone else involved in the shoot gets paid somehow when she gets booked for jobs. I was working for photos to use in my portfolio. If the photos look like shit, I stand to gain nothing. Correct?

Apparently this is too complex for a bimbo “model” with half a brain to understand.

I did not appreciate the false accusations & personal attacks on her blog, so I emailed her to confront her. She had the cheek to tell me that I should accept her “constructive criticisms”. (Mmm, no. Who are YOU to dole out “constructive criticism”?) After that she purposely posted rave reviews about other MUAs on her blog.

Last year she was on The New Paper front page…….. arrested for drug use.

Well. Lets just say.. Karma is a bitch. :D

 

These days, I dont do any TFPs anymore. Unless the photographer is really good, and the photos add significant value to my portfolio. Or if the photographer is somewhat of a friend to me.

Otherwise, my time is very valuable to me and I expect to be paid fairly & promptly for my services. Its not unreasonable by any means.

Im so disgusted when I hear of some “MUAs” charging $50-$60 for hair and makeup sessions. I mean, seriously wtf? Your cab fare is already $20- $30 easily. If you’re willing to spend 2 hours working for a mere $30, it tells me that 1) you’re not trained, 2) you’re using shit & cheap products, 3) you’re desperate for ANY paying job.

I dont care if you’re untalented, lousy, lazy or whatever. Dont go around spoiling the market for the rest of us, who actually bother to constantly upgrade ourselves- be it through self-learning or paid courses, buy and use ONLY quality products (and eh cosmetics aint cheap ok) and deliver at least half decent results to our clients… simply because we consider ourselves to be professionals.

Frankly if someone offered to do my makeup (and hair!) for only $50, I wouldnt allow him/ her to touch my face. I wouldnt want to risk a nasty reaction to whatever crap you put on my skin, or come into contact with all the ultra filthy makeup brushes & tools you use without cleaning or sanitizing them ever, and I end up having to fork out more money to get it treated. Thanks but no thanks.

More often than not, you really do get what you pay for. 

When the market is flooded with sub-par wannabes who are more than willing to provide their services for free, who would want to pay for makeup services anymore? Some of the more discerning people DO look for quality and are willing to pay for it, but a lot of people end up expecting free services, or cheap and good.

This really pisses me off.

 

Another thing I wanna talk about is… girls who devalue themselves.

Yes. I am going there.

You know the sort. You buy her a drink or two at the bar, and she’s going home with you. Or the sort who will deliver her ***** to his door step with just a phone call like Pizza Hut delivery.

This… I have a HUGE problem with. Not that Im a prude. It just really irks me when people spoil market, be it consciously or subconsciously, in any variety of ways.

I struggle almost on a daily basis, with self esteem issues. (I know its hard to believe, but its true.) BUT,  even I expect to be treated with respect and kindness. You dont buy me a few drinks or dinner, and expect to take me home for monkey business. Nope. Not happening.

I once had dinner with this guy who slammed the cab door on me, after I repeatedly rejected his kind offers to go home with him to see his “amazing new sound system”.  Its been almost a decade, I still remember the sour puss look on his face when I said “No”. Took all of 2 hours and 35 minutes to see his true colors, not bad at all. Never heard from him again, and couldnt care less. But am pretty sure he’s not the only example of a classic douchebag out there.

There are men out there like this, partly because they are used to getting whatever they want- easily & practically instantly.

Maybe some men confuse romance with prostitution, I dont know. I personally dont know of any self-respecting woman who would prostitute herself for food & drinks.

Why dont I buy YOU dinner and YOU come home with me? *wink*

You can do my house work for me. And scrub the toilet while you’re at it. :D

LADIES. STOP THIS SHIT.

 

You want a nice man who will treat you well? Then stop doling out the goodies like candy on Halloween. If all men have to do to get laid, is buy a few drinks or dinner, why would they need to expend effort to be gentlemanly, sweet, caring and funny??

We are all lazy f***ers by nature. Why expend more effort, if there is no need to?

You dont shower a puppy with treats & kisses first, and then expect him to behave well and obey commands. It just doesnt work that way. You dont reward bad behavior.  In many ways men are like puppies. Cute, furry but needs to be potty-trained.

(Disclaimer: I love dogs more than I love people, so this is in no way an insult towards men. Ok?)

You want to be treated like a princess, but you strut around behaving like a *****? Then good luck on your search for Prince Charming.

 

So, to summarize: Stop spoiling the bloody market. The future generations (and your self esteem) will thank you.

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